Pen and paper processing

March 25, 2017

Dear Cherished Heart,
In my last counselling session my mental health advisor spoke to me about my “parts”. When I get overwhelmed by feelings, it is usually because one or more parts are highly activated and giving me all kinds of not-so-true messages.

What she suggested is that I “parent” my parts. What do they need from me? 

To the perfectionist – I see you and your desire to be the best you can be, but this is a road fraught with confusion, and trial and error. Even though you are 51 years old it is OK to make a mistake. When you make a mistake it is an opportunity for learning, and readjusting your sails.

To the wounded – Remember you are an emotionally sensitive being. Feeling sad and-yes-brokenhearted is the path to healing. There is no shortcut. But not everything need to be painted with the brush of sadness. Stop and smell the roses. Really. I know it’s cliché, but it is one thing you can wilfully do to get through this. Practice gratitude. Every. Day.

To the critic- Fuck off! I got this. I get it, you don’t see your way through all this lawyering, all this financial rigmarole, or all this separating. It is pretty uncertain. But I am good enough already-so please stop telling me I can’t do this or that. I can. You are clouding my thoughts with your nay-saying;  I need you to sit in the next room and talk to yourself so I can get some clarity. OK? Good.

In summary:
Be your best-mistakes and all.
Practice gratitude-every day.
I am good enough already. Seek opportunities and people who make this evident.

It is very hard work.

I do love pen on paper at times Cherished Heart. It gives me more than I realized I had.

Yours truly,

Mona Lott


Author: wendyjunei

I am a busy mom, residing in Alberta. My writing favourite is creative non-fiction. I am a life-long learner, and I like to be active and outdoors as much as possible.

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